The Feminine Wisdom of Touch

I first met this week’s guest blogger, Alice Parvin, at a 2010 Women of Wisdom conference in Charleston.The depth of our connection grew immediately and we recently took it to a whole new level when Alice traveled to the island of Molokai where I hosted a women’s retreat on feminine wisdom. Is there anything more important than loving touch? Alice goes to the core of our yearning.

Alice Parvin

We connect as humans in thousands of ways everyday. Through the internet, via phone, Facebook, text messages, instant messenger, perhaps even a hand written note, a smile,

a hug or touch to the arm when we greet each other, but we so often miss the most important connection of all; the connection of touch on a conscious level.

I recently attended a Reiki Healing Touch Level One Class. I participated to find out more about using Reiki as a medium to “read” what my own body was yearning to tell me but what I discovered was even more profound. We are woefully deficient in human touch in our society; conscious touch. This realization came after a day with four amazingly wise women all on different paths of discovery of their own wisdom. After performing my final Reiki session on one of the participants I braced myself for her review. With tears in her eyes, she faced me and said, “If every young girl were to learn how it feels to be touched in such a wise way, there would be fewer unexpected pregnancies in this country.” Her statement rocked me.

As we talked about it on the way home, she said she was expressing what so many of us yearn for, the touch of the mother. The Great Mother. A healing touch. The touch of a wise woman.

If we as women had learned this touch, this loving, unconditional touch as children or even in the womb, we would be wiser women, friends, lovers and partners. We would carry it in every cell of our bodies, needed nothing more. Many of us who were children of the 50’s and 60’s were denied this. The fault does not lie with our mothers. They did not know. Some of us have been fortunate enough to have discovered the mystery of this touch of feminine wisdom later in life, others not.  It has changed my life. I learned at 60 what the magic of conscious touch can do. To heal, to open your heart, to discover pleasures and joy, I never knew.

It was only after the statement made in the Reiki session that I realized it was connected to the discovery and growth of my own feminine wisdom through touch and how deeply I want to share that with other women…all women. Through this experience I have awakened to my own appreciation of how my feminine wisdom through touch can reach so many people, if I am present and conscious to that wisdom.

Alice Parvin is a community leader, volunteer, mother and student of the facets of feminine wisdom, energy and power. She is co-founder of Fredericksburg Academy, a Pre-K through 12^th grade private school, now in it’s 20^th year. She is also a founder of WINGS which supports non profits in the community. She lives in Fredericksburg, Virginia.

Thank you Alice – you are truly a wise feminine leader bringing insight, vision, compassion, (a fabulous sense of humor!) and an ability to get big things done. We are all better for it.

Warmest regards, Karen