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Solstice: Welcoming Your Magnificence

June 21, 2012

My heart aches today. Is it sadness or joy? The Summer Solstice is the longest day of the year.  Like the Winter Solstice, it is a turning point. I deliberate on the repetitive patterns, habits, and behaviors I use to limit myself and others, remembering feedback, confrontations, and curious looks as mirrors of times when I stepped out of my Wise Self and into my ego reactions of fear or… well…fear.

It all comes down to that doesn’t it? Yet, my heart ache isn’t because of self hatred or anything like that! I am pouring on the love as I reflect. Drinking in the richness of insight, composting – taking the debris and the rich growth of the year and turning it into rich soil for second half of 2012.

This is one of those good aches, the creaking, opening, to more possibilities. A deeper resonance as I embrace my always growing and emerging soul. Who is my Wise Self below the fear? What does she want to say? Where does she inspire me to lead?

I also deliberate on all the ways I generously created a new future for myself and others this past year. How I stepped out of old limitations. I celebrate all that I am becoming and LOVE the gentle soul in me who cares so deeply about the world. I honor my dedication and my willingness to risk, to write, to speak, and to reach out and touch…and be touched.

The Solstice is a time of great personal power, a time of dancing and bonfires to help increase the sun’s energy. The goddess of light is honored as is the goddess of darkness – their rich and fertile pathways run below our common days. The sun is the furthest north for those of us in the Northern Hemisphere, our half of the Earth is tilted toward the sun, and it’s the longest length of time between sunrise and sunset on this day.

This is a day for turning. A day to consciously join the cycle of constant change – the ebb and flow, death and birth, weakness and strength, melancholy and elation. It’s a good time to have friends around, to be a good friend. It’s a time to give of your heart and warm the soul. It is a time to celebrate and ruminate – who you have been and who you are becoming.

Enjoy! Take a wild dance round the garden or under the moonlight in nature. Welcome your magnificence and shout it out to the world. Yahoo! I’ll see you there.

Karen

Who will create 5 million new jobs?

June 15, 2012

Women entrepreneurs will create 5 million new jobs nationwide by 2018? Wow. These jobs are sure needed in America (and around the world) today.

We are an economic powerhouse. This is what a 2009 Guardian Life research study suggested and we are well on our way to doing just that.

So the question is…how do we take our small businesses from well…small…to the next level where we can do our part in economic growth? How do we get past all the ways we limit ourselves again and again? How do we learn to bank on our unique strengths?

Over the past year, I’ve distilled my top 9 tips from over 20 years of helping small business owners grow their businesses  and wrapped them into a teleseminar called Business Boost 101. These models, tools, and skills are proven to generate a boost in any business, income, and career.

How do I know this? I learn every day from business women who succeed. I watch what they do and bring their attention to what works. As we figure out how to amply and refine their approaches, their success increases.

I spent hours and hours putting all these years of experience into these 9 key models and approaches that will open opportunities for your growth, at the right pace for you, so that your inner stillness and fertile creativity also flourish along with the kind of significant results you most want. I’m very excited to share them with you!

It’s frustrating to feel alone as an entrepreneur. The 3 part seminar also includes ample time to ask your gnarly questions, learn from each other, and receive vital support in stepping out of procrastination and into your feminine wisdom and personal power.

Business Boost starts Thursday, 6/21 so sign up today to get your workbook and start your own acceleration. (If you need to miss a session – they will be recorded.)

If you’d like to learn more from the research I mentioned above, check out The Guardian Life Index: What Matters Most to America’s Small Business Owners. It provides new insights about the professional management approach practiced by women small business owners – one that they believe will significantly transform the workplace environment for millions of Americans in the coming years.

“This women-led management approach will have a profound impact on the employees and customers connected to these businesses,” said John Krubski, futurist and research advisor to The Guardian Life Small Business Research Institute.  “Women small business owners will ultimately create more opportunities for employees to grow in their jobs and inspire others to start their own small business – all while providing customers with superior service.”

With special relevance to the tight credit many women experience today, the projection also reflects that women-owned businesses are more often self-funded than male-owned ones and are therefore less reliant on bank financing. The Institute’s projections are based on “a rigorous analysis of converging factors, including the faster growth rate of women-owned businesses vs. male-owned; higher college graduation rates by women vs. men; and the predicted growth of industry sectors and occupations dominated by women.”

  How do you most want to grow your business? What difference do you hope to make?

Warmest regards,

Karen

Business Coaching: Setting Priorities and Effectively Communicating

June 6, 2012

My decades of working with business founders and executives tells me that you are the source of the best ideas about how to build your business momentum! The Tips and Traps Exercise (part 2) that follows will give you a chance to develop your next steps and strategies for business growth, in the vital areas of:
• Accurate priorities and
• Effective communications

You truly are the expert, immersed in your business vision and progress to date, you know what to do to get to the next level. Identify a next step as well as some of the potential traps that you fall into while you design a strategy to get yourself out. Try it, answer the questions and take step after step to build your business momentum!

1. Accurate Priorities Tip – What are my highest leverage, most important priorities to build my business momentum now?

(Example: My highest leverage priority is to follow up all the leads that have been given to us, and my most important priority is to make sure that our next public event is well attended.)

Accurate Priority Trap – When I’m off track with my priorities, what do I need to do to get back on track and when will I do that?

(Example: When I’m off track, sometimes I need to get some extra rest and sleep, or I need to spend quality time with my husband, and/or sit down and have some quiet time at my desk to sort things out.)

2. Effective Communications Tip – What do I need to communicate and to whom to build my business momentum?

(Example: I need to communicate with the upcoming event volunteers to make explicit requests and give them directions.)

Effective Communications Trap – What are some strategies I could employ when communications break down in my business?

(Example: I could ask for a sane third party’s help, or I could calm down, reread any email before I send it.)

Because I love seeing small business people succeed I’ve developed the Business Boost Seminar where you learn to place yourself and your business in the right level of business growth with just the right activities to boost you to the next level. The next one starts Thursday, 6/21.

Warmest regards,

Karen

Business Coaching: Finding Your Passion

June 4, 2012

Speaking of passion, here in northern California, it’s summer! The sky is bright, the fog is rolling chill, and I don’t know about you, but I’ve got to be out romping in my garden with the tomatoes. Maybe that’s why I’m compelled to begin our focus today on passion….

Why is it even important to ignite the flame of passion in our business?

Many entrepreneurs I coach report that so many things get in the way of them building and growing their businesses. Our kids needs, our parent’s needs, survival needs, everything seems to come first. Some times it’s just overwhelming, and we all wonder if we will ever just be able to focus enough on creating our business to have it succeed….That’s when getting back to the tap-root of our passion is so important. It can really pull us through!

Our feminine wisdom tells us that you are the source of the best ideas about how to build your business momentum! The Tips and Traps Exercise that follows will give you a chance to make up some fresh and new next steps and strategies for your own business growth, in the vital areas of:
• Your passion (yup, let’s start there!)
• Your strengths and limitations
• Accurate priorities and
• Effective communications

In this exercise, yes, you’ll be the expert, giving your own best tips to yourself! In addition, you’ll be pointing out some of the potential traps to yourself as well. Try it, answer the questions and you’ll be amazed, it works wonders and will provide all this fodder for you to put to work for you in building your business momentum!

1. Passion Tip – What am I most passionate about in my business?

(Example: I’m passionate about helping women gain confidence, self-trust and fuller self expression in building their businesses.)

Passion Trap – When the flame of passion is diminished, what can I do to re-ignite it?

(Example: When my passion flame is dim, I can re-read some past testimonials of clients to help me remember the difference that I’m making in women’s lives.)

2. Strengths Tip – What are my strengths that are needed now to build my business momentum?

(Example: My strengths needed now in building my business
momentum are enthusiasm, generosity, willingness to learn new things.)

Strengths Trap – What are the self-imposed limits that keep me from creating business momentum?

(Example: Some limits I impose on myself are when I don’t trust my instincts and intuition and value someone else’s ideas more than my own. Or when I don’t speak up when I have something useful to contribute in a situation.)

3. Accurate Priorities Tip – What are my highest leverage, most important priorities to build my business momentum now?

(Example: My highest leverage priority is to follow up all the leads that have been given to us, and my most important priority is to make sure that our next public event is well attended.)

Accurate Priority Trap – When I’m off track with my priorities, what do I need to do to get back on track?

(Example: When I’m off track, sometimes I need to get some extra rest and sleep, or I need to spend quality time with my husband, and/or sit down and have some quiet time at my desk to sort things out.)

4. Effective Communications Tip – What do I need to communicate and to whom to build my business momentum?

(Example: I need to communicate with the upcoming event volunteers to make explicit requests and give them directions.)

Effective Communications Trap – What are some strategies I could employ when communications break down in my business?

(Example: I could ask for a sane third party’s help, and I could calm down and write an email apologizing for my outburst.)

Hooray for you, especially if you took the few minutes required to answer the questions! Go and give yourself a treat of some kind and celebrate this kind of clarity. You can have it all the time, when you make yourself the priority.

You may want to take another 5 minutes and translate your answers to the questions above into “to-do’s” on your list of actions and to-do’s in whatever system you utilize to stay organized.

I LOVE to hear ways that these business momentum exercises are making a difference for you and welcome all your comments!

Because I love seeing small business people succeed I’ve developed the Business Boost Seminar where you learn to place yourself and your business in the right level of business growth with just the right activities to boost you to the next level. The next one starts Thursday, 6/21.

Next Octave Leadership: Discover the Gifts and Natural Authority of Feminine Power

May 21, 2012

Like many of us, you may sense that the world is changing and that you, your team or organization has a bigger role to play. A Next Octave Leader values and utilizes the gifts and natural authority of her feminine wisdom and power; with increased self-assurance she leverages her unique strengths and talents to be powerfully effective.

In a recent radio show hosted by Carole Sacino I explore the top 7 ways a woman’s vision and values are critical in business. Through stories of women around the world, we discussed the 4 steps that you can use to stabilize your WiseCore in any situation so that you can succeed through the uncertainties of change.

Carole and I explore what holds women back and how research points to 3 key factors: self-doubt, dismissal, and shrinking. They add up to a persistent lack of confidence. Do you experience this? Many women I speak with every day do.

Click here to listen to  my interview with Carole Sacino on VoiceAmerica Variety Channel for an engaging exchange and stories about professional presence, feminine wisdom, and authentic leadership with results.

All of us who are striving to lead from wisdom can benefit from regular doses of inspiration which is one of the reasons why I have developed the Next Octave Women’s Leadership Webinar  which shows women leaders, entrepreneurs and managers how to develop a more authentic and effective leadership style. You will  learn how to use the 4 steps that stabilize your Wise Core and step you into your personal power.

Best,

Karen

Your Advice Please

May 20, 2012
Karen Wilhelm Buckley

On Molokai leading Women’s Retreat in May 2012

I’d love 3 minutes of your time to ask your advice. Your advice will be greatly appreciated by other women learning how to utilize and integrate their feminine wisdom into everyday work and home.

1. What is one way you use your feminine wisdom to increase success in your work, community organizing, family, or business?

2. What does your day look like when it includes feminine wisdom? How is it different?

3. From your experience, what is essential to remember about feminine wisdom?

Thanks! We are all learning to include feminine wisdom in each and every day of our work, play, and connection.

I’ll share the insights I receive, carefully attributing your name and title if you want.

In the mirror of each others’ wisdom lies a lot of self acceptance and acceptance of each other even with all our differences. When we get more comfortable with who we are – the scope and impact of our leadership grows, which is what the world needs.

Karen

P.S. All of us learning to lead from feminine wisdom can benefit from regular doses of inspiration which is one of the reasons why I have developed the Next Octave Women’s Leadership Webinar. Come share your insight and learn from other women as well.

Why Do Children Climb on Chairs?

May 18, 2012

Why do children climb on chairs? And why do adults sit on them? Guest blogger Jennifer Kenny again challenges our preconceived notions about the value of developing feminine wisdom in leadership and business.

“The prevailing thinking would tell us that children climb on chairs because they have not been trained to sit on them. However if you look carefully at how children interact with chairs you will notice that they climb on them, write on them, sit on them, play on them, ignore them and sit on the floor. It is only when they begin to distinguish chairs from other items that they begin to sit on them. A child sees a chair and they have no preconceived notion as to what a chair should be used for, so they climb on it, experiment with it, sit on it, they knock it over, they write on it, they ignore it, basically, they do whatever takes their fancy when it comes to engaging with the chair.

The interesting opportunity for us, is to look at how people engage with feminine wisdom. If they don’t know what it is, if the distinction of feminine wisdom, and the sub distinctions of feminine wisdom, don’t exist for them, then they simply, climb on it, sit on it, knock it over, write on it and ignore it, they use it for whatever purpose they think is appropriate – if they even see it in the first place. Remember children also sit on the floor quite happily and comfortably.

We are in a unique position, at this moment in history, to be able to distinguish and identify the facets of feminine wisdom and to bring forth those facets into the world in a way that they will be distinguished and in distinguishing them people will understand them, they will understand the value of them, they will understand how to engage with them, they will understand how to be able to pay for applied feminine wisdom and how to leverage feminine wisdom.

Karen Buckley has done truly foundational work in distinguishing the facets of feminine wisdom and working to bring those distinctions to a broader audience. She has distinguished nine facets of feminine wisdom and in so doing she has created the opportunity for all of us to enable humanity (masculine and feminine) understand what problems feminine wisdom can solve, what value feminine wisdom brings, why it is unique to the feminine (not just to women but to the feminine) and why that value can in turn add value for those around us and for those in our community.

Over the next few months you will see Karen articulate those distinctions in her blog and she will be publishing a book about those distinctions. She will also be looking to engage a broader audience in identifying understanding, valuing and appreciating, applied feminine wisdom and we will be working to create frameworks for bringing feminine wisdom to the world, in the same way masculine wisdom has been brought to the world.

The task ahead of us at the moment is to understand these distinctions ourselves, understand how each of us embodies one or more of the facets of feminine wisdom and help the rest of the world understand how to engage with feminine wisdom, what value it brings and how feminine wisdom can be instrumental in solving some of the enormous problems facing humanity today.

Onward!!

Sincerely, Jennifer”

Editor’s note! Jennifer, I have the biggest smile ever with your fine acknowledgment above. I too am very excited to share the distinctions we are all building every day as we become the wise feminine leaders that we are meant to be.

Jennifer Kenny is Interim CIO of SRI International. Jennifer has an extensive background in management consulting, change initiation and the design of business processes and systems strategies for Fortune 500 companies, including starting her own consulting firm BizThink in 2007.

Because I love working with women to discover these distinctions for themselves I put together the Next Octave Leadership Webinar that starts this summer where we’ll talk about the source of personal power and increased effectiveness.

Warmest regards, Karen